Ear piercing

So about a month ago Madison saw someone getting their ears pierced at Clairs in the mall. She decided thats what she wanted for her birthday. I thought that sounded pretty good. She does her chores well and has been keeping her toys picked up in her room pretty well lately too. So last week we went to the mall and Grandma got her ears pierced for an early birthday present. Madi did great! Only a couple tears after it was done and before they gave her a sucker. She let me clean them about the first day then started cleaning them herself. YAY. I saw no wrong about it. Then Cade told his mom about it.......I may as well have gotten Madi a tattoo. I was damaging my daughter by doing that and am forcing her to grow up by letting her get earrings......HELLO it's earrings!! Not a cell phone or a car. I really really do not know what to do about him and his nosy mom. No matter what I do or say, nothing is ok or good enough. I don't feed them right, don't dress them they way she would. I should do everything different down to the names of my kids. And above all else I should ignore the fact that he and them do not see the kids. I should bring them to functions so they don't look bad and pretend they come see them on a regular basis. UGH!!!